What’s the one piece of advice you’d give to a new mom? For me, it wouldn’t be about breastfeeding or books or my favorite baby carrier (although I care deeply about all those things). Nope. If I could only tell her one thing I’d tell her to make some really good mom friends ASAP.

She may have to trial several Mommy and Me groups to find the right tribe, but connecting with others that are going through the same thing as you i.e. A TOTAL F’ING SHAKEDOWN OF YOUR REALITY AS YOU KNEW IT is everything when you’re a new mama.

If you have pre-baby friends that are also on the same baby-timeline that can be really special, except I’d still suggest you make some other new mom friends as well. Existing friends that have babies might not live near you and you may not share the same parenting philosophies.

Shanisty Ireland of Scary Mommy lists the characteristics she’s looking for in her ultimate mom friend. Her top three attributes are: Be Real, Be Chill, Enjoy Wine. Again I’d add, live close. Ideally, you want mom friends within a short drive or walking distance (anything to avoid traffic and getting kids in and out of car seats).

But really the nice thing about making mom friends is it’s not about you – of course, you both need to get along but really it’s about the kids and being there for each other (even via text) when you’re both JUST coping.

If you feel like you’re not ready to leave the house there are a ton of amazing online mommy support groups and apps but nothing beats a mommy friend you can enjoy a glass of wine (or three) with. There’s strength in finding your own tribe.

Let us know in the comments if you’ve had a good experience finding new and fun mom friends and if you have any online mommy groups you’d recommend.

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